Life Changing Mindset

How do you get into the habit of positive thinking?

hi
i'm a negative thinker. My first love left me in February and since then I've never been happy. All the upsetting stuff he said to me drifts around my mind and I just wanna to forget. I wanna be happy again. I've decided to try positive thinking to kick-start it.
How does one change from being a negative thinker to a postive one? Please I really need advice
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1. u need to have willpower, u gotta try and think positive no matter what. its not as easy as ppl think it is, but maybe u should do a happy book, or something and collect quotes/photos, anything tht makes u smile and put it in the book. and everytime when u get upset look at it ?
aslo u MUST check this out
http://www.positivityblog.com/
it really heaps.

2. You just need to try and see the good in everything. You will get down at times but just be thankfull for the good things going on in your life. Try to stay busy doing the things that make you happy and spend less time thinking about the thins that don't

3. first major and maybe the only thing is to surround yourself with positive people which generates success also.

4. It definately takes patience, but you can start as soon as possible.
Just start with simple thoughts and change them into positive aspects for your life.

Whatever you do, just catch those negative thoughts and quickly change them into positive thoughts.

5. Think of your ex as hemorrhoids for starters, a pain in the ar$e.Just make a conscious effort to look for the good in things.You already have changed you know if its not positive it's not happy.Once you start looking for good you'll have no time to dwell good luck hope this put smile on your face.

6. I went through a similar thing a few months back, she didn't understand, and I felt pretty depressed.

For positive thinking, it depends on who you are. Some people like to go out to bars or clubs and talk to people, maybe of the opposite sex, and just feel good and confident in yourself. I wasn't sure this would be for me, but I did this the other day, and it really did work.

I also read Derren Brown's book "Tricks of the Mind", and there's a good technique for blocking negative thinking in there that really does work. You might be able to find this on the internet. I'd just try several different things, but don't do anything you feel you don't want to; I know some people try and get over people by sleeping around, and I could never bring msyelf to do this.

Maybe you should try talking to people or friends. It's always good to get everything off your chest.

Well, good luck with everything!

7. I sincerely believe that it's easiest when you have enough positive occurances, well, occuring. Maybe you're just a results-oriented individual.

8. If you are manipulating the mechanic of your car then you need to know what you are doing, otherwise you might cause an undesired result at another place that even might be more difficult to correct or even might damage the engine.
So watch out when you want to manipulate your way of thinking. Better is to find a creative solution and solve the problem at its root and with this treating and healing the whole. Then the symptom that shows as your negative thinking will change by itself.
One way would be that you really find out more about how a human system functions and what conditions are causing certain reactions.
That is real work and the question is, if your are willing to go into such a learning and growing process. Indeed this would be the only way to solve your problem for good, otherwise the same will happen again, even more complicate.
That you come to a 'positive thinking' you need some information that you can establish a new attitude and a creative way to deal with difficulties in your life.
First you need to get out of feeling as a victim. What happened to you and had produced your negative reactions had a cause that you can find within yourself, although it is possible that you are not ready to look for it and so giving the fault to the outside and to other people, in your case to your ex.
If you could see all what shows up in your life as part of a growing, learning and healing process, even if it feels uncomfortable, but understanding it as a challenge that needs your engagement and so you are ask to do your best, then whatever happens is not seen as negative and so also your way of thinking will be positive and when negative reactions showing up, then you can look at it and see that it is because you had certain expectations that were not fulfilled. Can you follow me?
OK, when you observe your reactions, then you know that these are caused coming from your unconscious background. So you react without knowing why and when you react, mostly this happens like automatic responses. What is needed is to become aware of it and find out about the root. This has to do with 'self knowledge' and is a life long process, but it is worthwhile because with this you free yourself from false values and find a way to be happy without depending on outside conditions, having found a balance within yourself. -
Maybe this is more than you wanted as an answer, but it is up to you to use it or just being satisfy with a quick fix. I hope for you that you prefer a more serious work and a solution coming out of this as a result.
It is good and a creative start, that you ask for a solution. I hope my answer motivates you to continue to search and to ask...
BeiYin

9. When you state: "I am a negative thinker." then this tells that you have established this image of yourself. To get out of this you will need to change your mind set. How? By being conscious about your thoughts and feelings when they show up, mostly as reactions when you are encountering daily happenings. Just observe and be aware how much you are identified with it. You don't need to do anything about it, just observe, then you can distinguish and it will clear up by itself, no manipulation necessary.
What you need is daily practice and that's what life is for.

10. I would start with gratitude. Make a list of all of the things you are grateful for. Each day, add 5 new things to the list. This will open your awareness and attitude toward the positive.

I would also choose an affirmation that really speaks to you. When you have negative thoughts, interrupt your thinking and repeat the affirmation you choose 3 times. I like the affirmation, "I choose to be happy." Letting negative thinking run its course causes more negative thinking.

Lastly, I would get busy. Become in involved with different clubs, organizations or volunteer. Meet new people and keep active. This will help you get over the breakup. It is hard to keep thinking about the past when you are actively pursuing the future.