Life Changing Mindset

How can I stop always thinking about the negatives in things and see the positive?

I always look at the negative side of everything and I dont know how to stop. My husband says Im such a negative person when I say something bad is going to happen if something happens.
How do I start being positive about everything and be all happy and bubbly?
There is a girl at work that's so happy and cheerful it makes me want to be like her. But how?

Public Comments

1. there are way more negatives in everything than positives so keep on

2. it boils down to chemical imbalance. take a depression test. and if you feel you could be clinically depressed, speak to a psych. prozac will definetly help. altho it takes a month to get the dosage right and the pills to start working.

3. I was like you once and then I tried the "Pollyanna" theory. I don't know if you know the movie but anyway she was stuck in a bad situation but she always found something to be happy about.
Be grateful for what you have, every day be thankful for the small things, you obviously have a job when 1000's of others don't, you obviously have a husband when 1000's of people wish for a partner to share things with, I assume you have a home and things in it when 1000's of people are homeless. Its not hard !!!! and when you feel a negative comment wanting to blurt out keep your mouth shut until you can say something positive.

4. i too do like u..i dont know how to stop it..u know i wont believe anyone at once..i will think twice or thrice to believe someone(even its my mother)...:((
i will think everything negatively like ''is he cheating me..if, what i should do..'' and everything like that..i wont believe someone at once..i hate it..

5. It's all about perception. You can't ALWAYS be happy and bubbly, but you can appear to be positive. Think about your responses before responding. Hypothetical example... Let's say you don't like your husband's mother and he breaks the news that his parents are coming to stay for a few days. You could answer, 'Great, just what I needed", or make a comment to him about how you are always being judged by his mother... Negative, and would just invite an argument. Instead, take 10 or 15 seconds to get past your dissapointment and then respond... "Fantastic. We haven't seen them for awhile now. Pause again, and say something like "Do you think they will be comfortable here at the house, or should we really make this an event for them? We could set them up in that really nice new hotel so they could have privacy and still only be minutes away?

Just always respond with Great, fantasatic, or "great idea"... and rather than state your opinion, ask a question that seems sincerly thoughtful, but gets you what YOU want. Worked for me, and completely changed the perception of people around me.

6. HARLEY DRIVE THAT IS THE BIGGEST LIE EVER!!!

Here is a good solution start writing down things you appreciate, Do this especially when your in a random happy mood.

7. you have to make a list of what you love about your life and your work so if you want a good life you have to make it a good life