Life Changing Mindset

How does one get into a confident mindset?

All through middle and high school I was teased for being ugly. Now I'm out of school and my body and face have changed a lot. I've had random strangers tell me I was pretty, but I'm still stuck in that ugly duckling mindset. How does a girl gain confidence when she never really had any to begin with?

Public Comments

1. I am kinda in/was in the same situation. What REALLY helped me out was joining a sports team. Any sport you like, even unconventional ones like martial arts or any team sport. I made a close group of friends and my confidence grew with my skill. I loved it

2. you need to take a non judgemental look in the mirror fresh out of the shower fresh and clean, start to analyze your features allowing only positive answers, start to manipulate your hair in different fashions something different then try make up to enhance your features, a little make over on the inside and out ! you will be learning the you that was always in there and bringing her out in a new light, you realize that you have matured and time has been good to you, its okay to be a little vain...its called self esteem dear! Remeber positive! Dont let those negitives creep in, that was then this is now. Dabble in a style that you wouldve never thought before jstu for kicks to break out of the old, good luck

3. Here's what I do.
Note I'm still in high school, but I think I hope this helps.
You can't worry about rejection. I know it sucks but really think about it. Imagine yourself in the middle of the mall, everyone is calling you ugly, fat, and girls are snickering at you. You need to remember you look good in order NOT TO CARE. You'll be so much happier if you stop over thinking situations you're in and stop picking at your flaws. It's like someones laughing at you, Okay so what? They laughed you, are they going to kill you? are they going to take a picture of your face and mark it as ugliest person in the world ? No they laughed, and you moved on its over. done quick zap. That's why it's all too simple, you need to remember you STILL look good. You're different now you're not the same girl from high school, get out of the ugly duckling mindset you're a swan and chant that to yourself. If you ever feel like someones talking about you smile, and pop in your headphones and walk like you own it because that person teasing you still wants your attention for a reason but your not going to give it to them you keep walking with your head up. I'm in year 10 now, and girls are really mean I can tell when their laughing at me for like what color socks im wearing. Their laughter fuels me, because I have something they want confidence to love myself for what I am, and what I always will be. Myself.

Turn your negatives to a postive, like oh i hate my ears i look like an elf, but then smile and think elves are majestic creatures i wouldnt mine being an elf, idk something like that.

In the end of the day all you have is you. You want to wake up to yourself and think I'm beautiful and nothing can change that. You don't want the way you feel to project on to the people that think your beautiful. Rethink about the people that laughed at you, do you think you were really that ugly to begin with? Too the point their teasing you?No. They continued teasing you because you were blind to your own self. We see ourselves differently then other people see us. If they're calling you pretty they mean it lol.

Love yourself, and be secure.