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some positive thinking techniques for exams? What are some ways in which someone can learn positive thinking techniques? and also, what are some positive things they can say to themselves?

books / techniques for positive thinking? I'm trying t o become a more positive thinking person but I hate self help books (so much for positive thinking) Are there any tips / tricks to keeping an open mind - actively working on it?

how to change/overcome negative thinking patterns? CBT? i think so negatively and it has gotten to the point where I just can't see the point in living. i have started seeing a counsellor/psychologist but I don't really feel I'm getting anywhere. Any advice. It's so hard to turn it all around and sometimes I just get exhausted from the positive and negative thoughts in my brain constantly battling each other. HOW DO I CHANGE MY NEGATIVE THINKING TO POSITIVE? Techniques, strategies, exercises, success stories.. anything!?

any techniques on thinking positive?

"Beyond Positive Thinking: A No-Nonsense Formula for Getting the Results You Want"... in composing? In case you hadn't guessed, I want you to parody the market for self-help/motivational products :) Instead of Michael Jordan, though, put Beethoven in the mirror. (Have you seen the SNL sketch? "I want to be the best Michael I can be"...) I remember American Beauty doing a pretty good job of mocking "10 Steps to Success" products too. That title is real, here is the product description: "A common-sense approach to achieving success in one's life offers workable, step-by-step methods and positive visualization techniques to help readers personalize goals, trust creativity, transcend old beliefs and limitations, and transform positive thinking into positive action." If only Beethoven had had access to today's precious intellectual resources! I'm sure he really could have used the help Robert Anthony, PhD., in trusting his creativity. Suggested Categories: Yahoo! Products > Yahoo! Mail > Spam & Bulk Mail Sports > Auto Racing > Formula One Science & Mathematics > Mathematics Hahaha I love this site

How much difference does positive thinking make? I mean exactly how much does it help to change your mindset? I think everybody can name several situations where a change of perspective helps greatly. But there's a hard limit at some point. How do you reconcile knowing that there is a limit with dependence on positive thinking? You have to either renounce belief in a hard limit (so you believe a quadriplegic 86 year old woman can become a basketball champ if only she really wants it and thinks about it hard enough) or you have to ignore it or management it somehow .... So you see, there's more to it than just positive thinking, and the people who make money out of positive thinking techniques know it, but they won't tell you it. Why not? ;)

Which is the best of the worst? Okay, so I've been asking for advice for the past couple of days. My mental condition is getting pretty bad and I'm going to the hospital, but cant go today. So after answering a zillion questions I realized that I have a bunch of negative coping techniques. Between eating too much, sex, cutting (or burning), and drinking which is the best thing to do to make it through the next day or so until I see a Dr? I know about positive techniques but they literally make me sick to my stomach to think about ( don't know why) so I have great difficulty doing them. I know the question is pretty depraved, but what would you do?

What are some good techniques to stay happy, positive, and extatic throughout the day when your at work? I just seem to get bored and unhappy cause its the same old same old.. ya know? Is there something I can think about or keep my mind on something to enjoy life and be happy 24/7? I get happy, positve and extatic and i enjoy life but I want to be able to do it 24/7. Just let me know what you guys do to help you achieve that goal? thanks. Eric

Any good books (modern) about positive thinking and how to become more positive in your outlook? i am looking for techniques in replacing automatic negative thoughts with positive ones. also, do you think hypnosis could make someone more positive?

Is positive thinking undermining America's ability to face problems? Right, I stumbled upon this and found it interesting enough to ask you. http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=113758696 If you don't want to read it all, here are a few exerts, (which I chose amongst the ones I believe the most annoying): At the turn of the twenty-first century, American optimism seemed to reach a manic crescendo. Perpetual growth, whether of a particular company or an entire economy, is of course an absurdity, but positive thinking makes it seem possible, if not ordained. the president almost demanded optimism. He didn't like pessimism, hand-wringing or doubt." The truth is that Americans had been working hard for decades to school themselves in the techniques of positive thinking, and these included the reflexive capacity for dismissing disturbing news." So my question is (and it is a serious one) do you think this mindset is indeed rooted in the American psyche to the point of becoming a handicap?

Is it okay to sometimes get like this while on the road to learning positive thinking? I was reading this book on positive thinking and it gave me techniques on how to be happy... by learning techniques of forgiveness and letting go etc.... but I was just wondering is it still okay to get angry, be selfish and stubborn sometimes. And by this I mean only to accomplish goals and never to hurt another person. Is this still healthy because I find that I lose motivation if I don't have a bit of fire in my belly... or if I'm not a bit selfish and stubborn sometimes....I just hope it isn't unhealthy and wont have any downsides for me in the future.... hope this makes sense...!

What are the best books for helping sales-people develop positive thinking skills and deal with rejection? I don't particularly need books on sales techniques. I mostly need books on personal psychology techniques. The individual I'm trying to help is the top salesperson in the company, but she gets discouraged much too easily whenever she has a period of time with few or no sales. She tends to allow that discouragement and pessimism to affect her performance, thus perpetuating the less successful period.

Had the worst day ever, how can I feel better? I've gone through enough bad days to realize that the rain doesn't last forever. I just need some temporary relief. I cried for a good five minutes but had to stop for fear of people seeing me =( I just really had a rough day and feel like serious sh*t. Any techniques? Positive thinking doesn't work on something like this.....

How can we get Positive Thinking to work better in our lives? We all have negative thoughts that prevent us from performing our best, or stop us from considering some very good alternatives. What are some techniques that might help us see the real potential and encourage us to try things we would usually not consider.

how to think positive ,give me some techniques to think positively? i have doubt,i think something bad might have happened because of my actions to others, when i close my eyes some negative thought comes i feel thst this will effect by subconscious mind and something wrong might happen all these kind of thoughts how to overcome

Does positive thinking and visualization really work? I've read books about these subjects but don't seem to have much succeess w/ the techniques

Poor self esteem affecting my sex drive and relationship? I am recently engaged (last October) and I find that in the past couple months my low self-esteem (essentially hating myself), disordered eating, and so on has been affecting my desire for sex, and moreover I feel like it's hurting my relationship with my fiancé. He assures me that I'm beautiful, probably more than he should. But I'm literally disgusted with my appearance, my weight -- everything. I am seeking help for my eating disorder, and for my other mental health problems, however, nothing seems to be helping my sex drive. I simply don't want to have it because I don't want to be naked, and I feel like he's secretly disgusted with me. Can anyone offer advice? Positive thinking techniques? Or has anyone gone through similar ordeals?

If u could change your height and become taller or shorter what would that be? with the power of your mind? visualization techniques, positive thinking, belief, law of attraction, etc.... i believe these stuff really works. Victoria secret, I was in your height 14 years old and i grew 4 inches taller, and the last 3 months with daily visualization i grew 2 more inches, really cool, im very happy.

I've decided to become a dog walker and further my training by learning how to train dogs, but...? there appears to be 2 main schools of thought on this subject. There is the Milan camp and the Dunbar people. I've never heard of "positive" training but I've just read an article where Dunbar says that "training is training", and that training people and training dogs is similar. I'm not sure I agree. I think a dog is a dog and too many people treat their dogs like people (so much so that I've had to physically move other people's dogs who decided to jump on my face or lap when I'm sitting at a friends house). I just don't understand what's wrong with setting the appropriate boundaries. Dogs are cool, but I have a right to space also. I've watched the dog whisperer and I honestly don't see anything violent about Milan's methods. Even his alpha rolls are never done forcefully or violently and sometimes the dogs submit without him raising his finger. He's good with dogs. But I still wonna learn positive techniques too. Where should I start reading, and who should I go to for training?

"You can conquer almost any fear if you will make up your mind to do so." Do you agree? Who said this? "You can conquer almost any fear if you will make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind." Is this true? Is this statement one of those "positive thinking" techniques for conquering your fear? I do not quite agree. Who said this?

can someone please help me correct my essay for punctuation errors.? This is my last essay and i would really appreciate your help. Don’t Leave Me Behind When a child who is not meeting the required level of academic achievement hears the word “school” a frown magically appears on their face, because school is not looked as a happy place for a child who is having difficulties. Children are not always sure of themselves and look to teachers and their parents to reassure them of the qualities they possess. As students we are expected to keep up with the homework and learn all the lessons taught by the teacher, but what happens when what is being taught is not being understood? Who can a child go to when they feel they are failing? How can the educational system support the needs of a child who is in need of help? When a child is in danger of being held back, the school should make sure all possible efforts are being examined before coming to the conclusion of flunking a student. Flunking shouldn’t be used as a teaching tool but as way of opening teachers eyes to seeing the child needs help. If a child is in danger of being held back the teachers and parents should help assist the child to assure he/she has the opportunity to achieve. I believe flunking a student has a negative impact on a child both mentally and emotionally. A student’s learning abilities are taught by the teacher but when a teacher fails to teach the material needed to pass a grade level, the child pays with being held back in school. A child attends school to learn information from a qualified person the student confides in the teacher to be taught the material needed to succeed when a teacher does not meet their goal to teach the student is left feeling hopeless. For example my son has had a problem since kindergarten with reading but the teacher passed him because she said he was on the borderline of passing. I didn’t think anything of it until he entered the first grade and he would come home upset because he didn’t understand the books that were assigned in class. My sons’ problem continued throughout the year, he improved a little as the months passed but the teacher informed me he might have to be held back. Hearing the news that he might have to be held back destroyed my son emotionally he felt as if he was a failure and his class work began to deteriorate. Seeing as the school was not doing the job I felt they should have done I enrolled my son in a reading program outside of the school and since then he has been doing a lot better. As parents we expect for our children to learn at school but sometimes that is not the case and we was parents need to find the help even if it's outside of the school. When a school has a child who is having trouble understanding the material, it is the schools responsibility to assure the child gets the help needed. When a child is having difficulties in the classroom the child needs to be reassured there are options to getting help. When a child discovers he/she is failing in school there are positive techniques other than just flunking a child. Schools have tutoring programs that are held after school for children who need help. If a child is having trouble reading the teacher can dedicate a little more time to them in the classroom to motivate them in wanting to improve. When a child gets one on one attention he/she feels valued as person. My friends son kept having trouble comprehending the material taught in school she suspected her son had a learning disability and let the school know, the school did some testes and discovered he had dyslexia a learning disability that impairers the ability to learn to read. The school automatically put him in a program that gave him get the help he needed. The fear of failure reinstates in the child the need of help he/she needs is to succeed in school but a child’s motivation is seeing they can work through their problem. When a child is failing their emotions sometimes take the best of them they begin to doubt themselves and feel failing is their only option. When a child receives the help they need and begin to understand the things they couldn’t before a huge weight is lifted off their shoulders and there confidence in themselves begins to shine. Being able to comprehend material that was once unfamiliar to them is like opening a present and discovering it’s what they had hoped for. The fear of failure is not what helps a child overcome their difficulties’ its discovering they possess the tools in themselves to achieve their goals. “In the Praise of the F Word” by Mary Sherry, she stated that, “Of average intelligence or better, they eventually quit school, concluding they were too dumb to finish” “I should have been held back” is a comment I hear frequently” (511). This only happens when the teachers, school, and parents fail to help the child in their difficulties. When a child is in danger of failing the teacher jumps to the conclusion the child needs to be held back, but a dedicated teacher can find the resources the child need to succeed. With effort from both the teacher and parents a child does not need to be held back in school. Failing a child is like telling them their not worth passing. A child’s mind is sometimes not developed to understand why he/she is even in the position of being considered to flunk; a child’s learning capabilities should be broadened by their teachers.

Why's everyone angry with Cesar...Jealous maybe? I've owned dogs for over 17 years. Big ones too. My first dog was an Akita, and my father used to hit her alot (and hit me too unfortunately). When I read and see Cesar Milan's methods compared to my dad, I'd say it's very humane. He uses vibration collars (not shock collars like some ppl think), and he promotes the idea that dogs never have to be put down... ever!! I've seen dogs put down because the owners were too soft on the dog, or only used positive techniques when immediate correction would have been better.I've also seen them turn their kids into spoiled brats with the same training. Also, some people say he gets fast results but it hurts the dog in the long run, but that also seems to be false. I've done my research, and he has revisited many dogs, months and years after rehabilitation and they were always doing better. so I ask, as a non expert... why is everyone so angry with Cesar?

How can I get my 7-year-old to listen? I was 16 when I had my daughter. I dont wanna hear your rude comments, and I had her when I was 32 weeks. I wanted to place her for adoption, but with her being ill my grandma wouldnt let me. She said she would take care of her. So she did. She did great! I mean I was still around and she knew me and all, but it wasnt my rules anymore. So my grandma passed away in 2007, when my daughter was 3. I was also 7 months pregnant with my son who is now 3. So I got my daughter back and took full responsibility. I took parenting classes and all. Well.... I guess I catered to her a bit to much. Now, she says you never let me do this or that and its not fair and tried to boss me around. Then she cries and says mean things to me, like well you didnt raise me and you dont care about me. It really hurts my feelings. I know I should have done things different, but its to late now. So when she does it, my 3-year-old son thinks he can. Then my 2-year-old daughter sees both of them and tried to be bigger than me. I get mad at my hubby when he spanks them because I feel there is a better way than spanking, plus if I spank them they come back and then I get really pissed off and I am scared I will hit them to hard. Well a few days ago it drew the line when my 2-year-old grabbed me by the throat and would not let go. I was flabbergasted! I was in shock! Did not have a clue what to do. Well everyone says give them a good back hand. IT DOESNT WORK YALL!!!! What can I do to get them to listen? Positive Techniques please?!!!! I've tried goal charts, bribing, and losts of stuff. Whats next for me to show them I am bigger? I also have fibromialgia and servere pain all of the time. I cant be on meds for the pain cause I am scared of fallin asleep. I have also gained about 110lbs in the last 2-years when I am used to 160ish. My dr put me off work and I have just lost a lot of interest in things. Please? Thanks and Bless all! Please do not put me down! I need full description as I am kinda better with being shown than reading and doing. I also live in North Western Michigan if you need that to find a website. And I do not have any extra money to pay for classes. I am low income and disabled.

Finally considering using an electric shock collar!!!? I am considering using an electric shock collar on my dog but only as a last resort and I wondered if people think it may work or whether it's such a terrible thing that I shouldn't use it at all? To give you some background, I have a rescue Weimaraner that I've had for about 2 years now, he is a wonderful dog in every way except he has a really bad habit of running off to see dogs. When I say running I mean at full pelt and usually he'll crash into them as he doesn't stop in time. I have been told off countless times and it means that I don't let him off leash now in public. I' have seen 5 different trainers over the years who all have used positive techniques, done obedience classes and socialised him a lot but I still have this problem . He is totally fine other than this one problem. The only thing I haven't tried is an electric shock collar because I in principal don't agree with them. However I'm at the point now where he either spends the rest of his life leashed or maybe just maybe this collar may work. I figured a couple of weeks of EST or a lifetime on the lead. So I wondered if people thought it would work or whether I shouldn't ever resort to this type of treatment even though I have tried everything else and have spent a lot of time/stress trying to fix this all with no success. I just really want to be able to let him off and let him enjoy walks fully. Thanks for some answers so far. BTW just to clarify, this isn't an invisible fence type collar, the dog is out on walks not at home. Secondly the collar I have looked at has settings from 0 - 100 and I have tried a friends one on myself and you can increase the intesity from nothing through various small stages so I wouldn't but I wouldn't be using it anywhere near 100. I would test it on myself first and use that as a guide to pick the right level that would break my focus but not cause extreme pain. When I was a kid I was smacked if I did something wrong, it has never done anything bad to me other than tell me not to repeat that behaviour and my thinking is that if my dog runs off I have no other way of addressing the problem because I am not by it to correct or do anything so the behaviour is left unchecked.

Any one got any good videos or techniques to get rid of stage fright ? I have tired thinking positive, and thinking people are dressed or doing something funny, breathing techniques, chewing gum, iv done what every one has told me i need something new and also do hypnosis CD/ DVD's work ??? help please Links to videos may help

Why do people get accused of being either positive or negative? I get accused of being negative all the time even though I find it impossible to be either at any one time as rationally I find it really depends on what it is, as I'm not negative toward people or new experiences unless someone has been really rude to me or I don't like the idea of something for whatever reason. But I do sometimes have a bad day where I just think my world is about to end and I don't feel like being happy but I find it completely baffles me why some people are so quick to put you into one of these two categories. For me I find that most people I know or meet are both depending on their day, what mood they are in and weather they feel well in themselves and I wouldn't even use the terms positive or negative for me its optimistic or doubtful. I'm starting to resent people who so freely use these terms and write people off this way. It does not seem like something intelligent fair minded rational people should do we should have sense to know this is not true of anyone all the time and its not fair to class someone as being negative especially when they've had such an appalling time. Its almost as if they expect people who are sad because something bad has happened, not to impose their sadness as it may bring them down which I find utterly senseless and cold. My dad told these terms are used in mind manipulation and brainwashing techniques. Especially in sales and life coaching. Telling people to be positive when they have doubt and complimenting them when they have been positive is a sales techniques and to class someone as negative when they don't agree with you is a sure way to manipulate someone and bring them around to your way of thinking. I don't know what do you think? Where does all this nonsense come from? Maybe the consumerism of our time is teaching people to be positive and to be more open to advertising.

Any suggestions on how to make myself have a more positive outlook? I have a few problems at the moment (i wont bore you all with them) and i am desperately trying to be positive. The problem is, no matter how many times i say positive things out loud...in my head i still dont really believe it. I dont think my life is hopeless and that there is no light at the end of the tunnel or anything, i just cant seem to cope very well at the moment and i feel like i need to change my negativity. Has any one had success with techniques/books etc? All helpfull advice really appreciated. Thank you very much to you all who have answered so soon...i will be taking on board all your advice. More suggestions welcome :)

What techniques do you use to see the best in others after they've hurt you in some way? Holding on to anger and grudges serve no purpose. I've made changes in my thinking, so that when others hurt or betray me in some way, I immediately challenge negative thoughts, by focusing on positive characteristics the person may have. Often this means recognizing qualities these people may not have shown me personally, but have shown others. In a strange way, it helps me "remember" that everyone has some good inside of them, which makes if easier to forgive. Also, it helps me to reflect on areas where I need to grow and change. What are your thoughts on this, and what have you done to personally heal or forgive others? Hi Wicca, I understand how you feel. The technique I use doesn't mean I deny what the person has done to me, or that I continue a relationship with them. It just means I recognize the good in them, so that I can move on peacefully realizing they are only human. Sometimes depending on the hurt, if we just move on without making peace emotionally and mentally with ourselves, we carry this larger than life ugly image of the person, that gives them power they really don't have. This utlimately can cause us fear. Well, I hope this explains a little. :)

Help me get my life back, depression? I'm having the worst year of my life and your help would be extremely appreciated. There's a lot going on and its hard to figure out. My problem is nothing makes me happy anymore, and meds only make me suicidal. I feel much better after stopping meds, but still not 100% by any means. One of the biggest things is that nothing makes sense to me anymore, like I'm lost in a metaphorical fog. If it were as simple as "do what makes you happy", I wouldn't be on here asking for advice. That's the problem, there isn't much satisfaction in anything anymore, even the things that used to make me extremely happy just depress me because they don't anymore. I'm seeing a free therapist I got from the suicide prevention hotline, but only have four free visits left, I'm really hoping to be over all this by the time my visits are up. I have managed depression very well my whole life up until 2011. This year I decided to follow my lifelong dream but got shot down immediately. It wasn't bad at first, I turned my focus onto some girl, but that failed almost immediately too, and that's where the depression began. Since then it has been hell, literally. I feel like all this sadness is attatched to her, but am finally starting to get over her. Still, this depression lingers. Any advice? Diets/vitamins? Positive thinking techniques? Lifestyle changes? Perpective shifts? I need techniques that will change my thought patterns, not just drugs that hide the underlying problem. I'm sick of this nightmare and want to go back to the old me, happy, motivated, and content with life.

Help please...I've tried everything...what can I do about my severe depression? I should start by giving a little background info: **I've been diagnosed at one of the best hospitals with severe Bipolar Disorder, Depression, OCD, PTSD, major anxiety, and sensory problems (oversensitive to sounds, light, touch, smell, taste...) **I've had years of therapy, been on literally dozens of meds (antidepressants, antipsychotics, tranquilizers, and some natural remedies like Flax Seed Oil, melatonin & Brewer's Yeast) **Meds haven't worked and caused bad side effects. Antidepressants make me manic or psychotic. **I've had 17 ECT (shock) treatmets for my depression. It didn't help at all. **I take Lithium, which gets rid of my mania & some psychotic symptoms, but it doesn't do anything for the depression. **I use positive thinking techniques I learned in therapy, all the time, and they only help a little bit. **I've been ill & in treatment for 14 years. I've tried different hospitals & doctors. I'm finally at the best place around, a very famous hospital, and they don't know what to do with me anymore. I do suffer from all the problems I mentioned but the depression is the absolute worst. I'm in my 30s and haven't been the same since I was a teenager. I've even been hospitalized several times. I push myself every day but I still have no drive, no energy, no concentration, trouble with short-term memory, no interest in anything, it's hard to understand people when they talk to me, I want to hide from people, I'm irritable, angry, and I can't stop eating. I gained over 100 lbs due to depression & don't have the energy to get rid of it. It's an effort just to take a shower & brush my teeth, Sometimes I can't. I'm unable to work & I'm on disability. I hate living this way, I'm not living. I used to be so energetic & motivated & it's gone. It's been 14 years of this. I've tried everything I can think of, and so has my doctor. Can you help me? Do you know who could? btw, I know the cause of all this...it's a combination of chemical imbalance & trauma...so that's no mystery jeremylaabs: I have to speak up about this. A suggestion that might help you in your own life: have a little sensitivity. Obviously, as I stated, I'm asking this on Yahoo because doctors don't know how to help me. Second, "Rome wasn't built in a day"? Are you kidding? After I said I've been ill 14 years? You really need to wake up and have some sensitivity. Unfortunately, there are other people out there with your mindset...I hope you gain some perspective. I'll also point out that I've done extensive research, on my own, on all my diagnoses. I'm very knowledgeable about my situation. And I've been more that cooperative with every doctor I've seen. In fact, I've actually been very involved in my own treatment and have even made suggestions of my own.

What are the best tools and techniques for manifesting abundance into my life? The secret? Positive thinking? Affirmation?

If your a primary teacher in the USA would you be interested in ...? learning positive discipline techniques? Is your principle educating you in the social and emotional area ? Do you think its necessary to teach academics ? To the OLD LADY that decided to critisize me instead of answering my question. Yes you are right about my grammer and I also know that you don't know me or my history. Its so easy to judge and put people down. I hope some day no one judges you the way you have judged me. It might not be in the area of grammer and spelling. UNLESS YOU ARE PERFECT, than I should be the first one to appologize...Thank you and I wish you well... of course it's necessary to teach academics. I meant to ask if you think its necessary to include "social emotional" education along with academics ? I feel like there is a need to move forward in the social emotional area. Schools are still using the same discipline techniques like time out, suspention and detention. I'm sure this stops the bad behavior teporarily, but it doesn't teach children to identify the problem and then explore altrnatives. For example, a child contantly gets up out of his seat and talks while teacher is lecturing. Most teachers don't tolerate this kind of behavior. The child is ordered to pull a colored card (popular I immagine all over the state) and looses a recess. Wouldn't it be better if the teacher stated how she feels ? For example, "Justin, when you get out of your chair, it distacts me when I'm trying to lecture. What can I do to help you to stay seated ? And work out a better solution by getting the child involved in the process.

Has any one found a way to attract whatever one wants from life ? People use positive thinking,magic,visualization techniques, you know the regular stuff. So is there any technique that has really worked for you and what was the technique you used ?

How many of these characteristics does Christianity fall under? Definitely not all of them, but enough to raise awareness. Fundamentalism in particular. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cult_checklist#Steven_Hassan Behavior Control * Regulation of individual's physical reality * "Where, how, and with whom the member lives and associates, what clothes, colors, hairstyles the person wears, what food the person eats, drinks, adopts, and rejects, how much sleep the person is able to have, financial dependence, little or no time spent on leisure, entertainment, vacations." * Major time commitment required for indoctrination sessions and group rituals * Need to ask permission for major decisions * Need to report thoughts, feelings, and activities to superiors * Rewards and punishments (behavior modification techniques -- positive and negative) * Individualism discouraged; "Group think" prevails * Rigid rules and regulations * Need for obedience and dependency Information Control * Use of deception * Deliberately holding back information, distorting information to make it more "acceptable," "outright lying." * Access to non-cult sources of information minimized or discouraged * Media (books, articles, newspapers, magazines, TV, radio), critical information, former members, keep members so busy they don't have time to think and check things out. * Compartmentalization of information; Outsider vs. Insider doctrines * "Information is not freely accessible, information varies at different levels and missions within pyramid, leadership decides who "needs to know" what and when." * Spying on other members is encouraged * "Pairing up with "buddy" system to monitor and control, reporting deviant thoughts, feelings, and actions to leadership, individual behavior monitored by whole group." * Extensive use of cult generated information and propaganda * "Media (newsletters, magazines, journals, audio tapes, videotapes, etc), misquotations, statements taken out of context from non-cult sources." * Unethical use of confession * "Information about "sins" used to abolish identity boundaries, past "sins" used to manipulate and control (no forgiveness or absolution)." Thought Control * Need to internalize the group's doctrine as "Truth" * "Adopting the group's map of reality as "Reality" (Map = Reality), Black and White thinking, Good vs. Evil, Us vs. Them (inside vs. outside)." * Use of "loaded" language (for example, "thought-terminating clichés". ). Words are the tools we use to think with.[clarification needed] These "special" words constrict rather than expand understanding, and can even stop thoughts altogether. They function to reduce complexities of experience into trite, platitudinous "buzz words" (The best analogy would be Newspeak in Nineteen Eighty Four by George Orwell). * Only "good" and "proper" thoughts are encouraged. * Use of hypnotic techniques to induce altered mental states * Manipulation of memories and implantation of false memories * Use of thought-stopping techniques, which shut down "reality testing" by stopping "negative" thoughts and allowing only "good" thoughts * Rejection of rational analysis, critical thinking, constructive criticism. No critical questions about leader, doctrine, or policy seen as legitimate * No alternative belief systems viewed as legitimate, good, or useful Emotional Control * Manipulate and narrow the range of a person's feelings. * Make the person feel that any problems are always their fault, never the leader's or the group's. * Excessive use of guilt: identity guilt (who you are, not living up to your potential, your family, your past, your affiliations, your thoughts, feelings, actions), social guilt, historical guilt. * Excessive use of fear: fear of thinking independently, fear of the "outside" world, fear of enemies, fear of losing one's "salvation", fear of leaving the group or being shunned by group, fear of disapproval. * Extremes of emotional highs and lows. * Ritual and often public confession of "sins". * Phobia indoctrination: inculcating irrational fears about ever leaving the group or even questioning the leader's authority. The person under mind control cannot visualize a positive, fulfilled future without being in the group.

Why are so many people suckers? If you wanna figure out obama here is the meat of his speeches and how they "hypnotize" you. There is a really good reason MOST follow him without actually thinking hard about it. He is an excellent seller. Here is the formula. You go to a speech. You get people to say yes to hope, yes to change, YES WE CAN. These are easy things to say yes too, very vague and appealing. One you get people to say yes to those things, then they get in the habit of that, so then you follow with a statement about something you want to make a point on. Then follow up with hope, change, yes we can. Eventually you become so conditioned to saying it, that you reinforce yourself, and you will agree with him no matter what. Also notice how most of the time he says open ended questions that require a yes or no answer. This is on purpose for the reasons stated above. Thats why in his speeches you hear people chanting and it sounds like a sermon, they are conditioned to respond with positive reinforcement. Thats because preachers use the same kind of speech technique. Positive self reinforcement. This is a classic sales technique and is proven to work. duh_web, if i posted the names I had for GW, my Q would be deleted =D daryl :)

Has anyone experienced labor with panic disorder? I'm asking about panic disorder, not average anxiety, which people seem to confuse quite easily. I am 35 weeks pregnant and have been to the ER 3 times in my life as I thought I was dying because my panic disorder was so bad. I found out this past week that my baby's head measures at almost 39 weeks and he's in the 85th percentile for weight. I'm considered "small" by my doctor, and am very afraid to go to 40 weeks with a child that is already so large. My instincts are telling me that it's going to be a bad situation if I wait until 40 weeks and try to have him vaginally. I foresee many agonizing hours of labor just to find out the baby is stuck and I need an emergency C-Section. I meet with my doctor Monday to discuss my concerns, but I am very much afraid to die during labor and delivery. I have a heart problem, (atrial tachycardia), asthma, and the panic disorder all riding against me. Has anyone experienced labor with panic disorder and have any advice on how to cope? I have been practicing at home for weeks and bought many items to assist in keeping me comfortable during labor. I also have my breathing techniques, positive thinking CD, and calming items from home to assist me in the hospital. How did you get through?

Who was "Anthony Robbins" and what was his "Power of Positive Thinking" seminars about? also,,,how well known is he around the world? when, and for how long was popular and where mostly? where he is from and what was his theory or where he borrowed it from? please explain how it might be similar or not to EFT ? or emotional freedom technique? thanks for your answers!

Why am i so anxious about my flight to america? I feel sick just thinking about it! Plz help!? Has anyone got any techniques so i can calm down and think positive? The last thing i want to do is spoil an oppertunity of a lifetime :( i hear distractions are good. I dont want to throw up! Im just so nervous

How to constantly think positive? Lately I've been attempting to think positive. It works for somewhat of a short period of time. Then suddenly a situation comes into my life that is hard to handle. Which automatically throws me back into negative thoughts. It's very frustrating and it makes it hard for me to see the positive side. Is there any breathing or physiological techniques I could use to help me? Any helpful ideas or thoughts would be greatly appreciated, thank you.

What is the best way to control your mind? How to control your thoguhts? Just think about positive things.? I want to find out how i can control my mind to think only positive thoughts, be more optimistic, cheerful, radiate energy and "Feel good" in general. There are some mind control methods I have come across. Does anyone have practical experience with such mid control techniques?

How would you encourage positive thinking in a teenager with very low self-esteem? Please help? I'm a young teenager. I have an older friend, by maybe almost 2 years. His dad is gone most of the time, his mom is in prison in another state, and both do meth. I guess I am the only person that "cares" about him, as he puts it. He's almost OD'd on anxiety meds, and started smoking a while back. In the mean time, I have gotten him to stop smoking, and he's off any pills. I am also helping him get his sleep back on track. All is going a bit better than when I first met him, but he seems to think all anyone wants to do is pity him, because they don't know how to react when he tells them about his life. And I know it's not true. But he was let down so many times in his life, his self esteem and expectations have lowered. What techniques would you use, to try and help him raise his expectations and self esteem, without going to a counselor or shrink, or getting meds? Please help?

Need ideas = help?? 8 year old(s) needing to stop worrying about what others think!? I feel like a wreck of a mother.. I have always implemented a positive kind of child centered approach to parenting my twins...not that I never veered from that - of course I am far from straight on by the book - I have raised my voice, swapped their butt a few times or used punishment instead of just calmly and with patience teaching them - but for the most part, I work on raising them and guiding them using positive parenting techniques... However, I am at my wits end this morning!! I lost it after spending an hour (not a typo) a full hour trying to convince my daughter to that three boys at school who will MAYBE make fun of her shirt should not dictate to her what she wears. My daughter is 8, she used to just wear what she liked and who cares what other think.. NOW, she refuses to wear shorts (we live in Florida and its hot!) -- she begged me for a twilight shirt - and so did her brother - I got them twilight shirts and they put them on this morning. They are different styles of shirts, but she flipped out saying she can not wear the same shirt as her brother that "matthew, george and alan will make fun of her and theya re mean".. My kids are in the same class - these other three boys are not even in their grade - they may or may not even see them. My daughter then went off on my son, trying to force HIM to cange his shirt, because she really really wanted to wear hers... trying to make him feel bad for wearing his, etc.. he refused (so far he is a bit more resiilent than she is - he is not worried about what those three boys think) she is beyond worreid, she had an emotional breakdown over this this morning. I told her she can change her shirt if she wants to give her power away to those three boys, but she can only control her - what her brother wears is not her concern... She got worse, locked herself in her bedroom (stubborn! ahhhhhh!) and we were late for school.. HSe ended up emerging with a different tshirt on but she was upset and crying all the way to school. First, I feel horrible, I lost my cool during the ruckus.. I was screaming at her to just let'g go, we can not be late over a tshirt.. secondly, I gave her absolutely no compassion because I thought are you kidding me, these kids are not a god - who cares what they think... I even had her look in the mirror and tell herself she is awesome about 5 times... I was basically grasping at anything.. I was a complete disaster as a mom this morning and now I am worried her entire day is ruined... Any tips/idea on dealing with these kind of things.. I need practical tips - because in theory I can grasp I need to be more compassionate with her 8 year old 'crisis' things and in theory I recognize my flipping out does not help... but when emotions are high and she is being stubborn, I am just a mess... Help!

Would you elaborate on the power of positive thinking? I need an understanding. Is there a specific technique?

Stressed out!? It's very hard for me to eleviate my stress. I have tried walking, being in a calm place, not thinking about the problems and trying to think positive. What techniques do you suggest to use to eleviate stress?

Being More Positive? Can anyone advise on techniques to be more positive? People have told me for years that 'I Lack In Confidence' But I honestly say that I don't think so. I do have mild to fairly bad depression. I just think that If I knew of techniques on being more positive then I would be more happier in life.Any help appreciated. Thank you.

Any techniques/tips/advice on how to forget someone? I know, I'll get a lot of answers stating how love is eternal or out of mind's control. And I fear that I agree with that. But, if you are positive that nothing good will ever come out of loving and/or waiting on someone, but if you don't seem to forget them, despite time and separation, is there anything you can do to speed the whole process up? What do you think?

Life sucks, but I like living: what should I do? Pretty much my whole life sucks, but it isn't usually bad enough to make me a maniac all the time. And I rather smite back at it's suckiness then die in defeat; not that I'm considering suicide. I guess I'm lucky to be alive, but I don't really care. Pschology treatment means crap, positive thinking techniques = crap. Oh, but no, you need to find a hobby and loving relationships! Sorry, but I was born into a mess and my "hobbies" don't give me happiness. I can't believe in stuff that is ridiculous and I see most of hopefulness and positive thinking as absurd. And no, I'm not just making myself want to not be unhappy. Life is absurd for some people no matter how you want to pretend everyone can just change and just be happy. It's not like losing a love one. It's like being born where you don't even know what it's like for life not to be absurd. How in the *@$% can I honestly believe life is going to be otherwise? So what should I do? Continue to find good points in life and just accept more fully I'm screwed? Smite back at society that puts pressures that bring the worse out of people? Just complain?

Any thoughts on how to prepare myself( mentally) for a risky surgery? Im asking in this section, because I need help trying to prepare myself mentally for a risky surgery next week.Im having stomach surgery, and I have an anxiety disorder with severe panic attacks.The last time I was put under, in 2000 I almost died from side affects from the anesthesia medication I was given.My surgeon knows of this and is taking precautions.Even so , it is risky surgery (Because of side affects).Im asking if anyone knows how someone with severe PANIC ATTACKS can prepare for this mentally?Im taking anxiety medication, but Im still having problems.I need help with ways to think positive.I had no time to prepare myself mentally for this.The Doctors doing his part, but I can't calm down, even with the anxiety medication.I need positive thinking techniques? If anyone knows of ways to deal with this mentally, please help.I have no family around close enough to help. Thank you.

What can I do to help? I'm helping my grandma watch my aunts two schnauzers for the next two weeks. One is a 7 year old male who is pretty well behaved but has some issues when it comes to going for walks. He will bark at everyone who has a dog and people who are running. The other is a 4 month old female puppy who doesn't know anything but her name and will sometimes sit. She won't let you pick her up. She will crawl all over you. She will bite, growl, and bark at anyone who is between her and food, play, people she wants to bark at, pretty much everything. She doesn't know what no means. She howls and barks when she is bored. When you take her for walks she pulls and still only walks less than a mile and then she will refuse to walk. She is very lazy. So its hard to drain energy in her. I understand shes a puppy. But I'm only around her for a few hours a day and my grandma stays home with them. I've trained all of my own dogs and they are very well behaved. But this puppy doesn't listen to anyone and she doesn't catch on to things quickly like my dogs do. I would put her in an obedience class but I don't have the time or money, plus she isn't my pup. I know positive training techniques work really well with difficult dogs. What else can I do? I think the most important thing I want to take care of is teaching both dogs not to pull when my grandma takes them walking. I don't want her to be pulled around and possibly fall.

How do i convince my parents i need psychiatric help? I've had issues since I was younger because of many traumatic events. And they have pilled up and are really damaging me now. I have developed social anxiety and sometimes i'm just angry all the time and i hate people.i've researched alot how to treat my anxiety i'm doing breathing techniques, exercises, and thinking positive.But when i'm not anxious i'm angry about anything. I've told my parents i need help but they say i don't need a psychiatrist because im not crazy wacko, but i think i am so. what can i do?i need pills

techniques to block out anger due to being hurt? how can I stop being angry about someone who hurt me, who has by ignoring me, made it clear they clearly don't care. I keep arguments going over and over my head. Its been 4 months now and its always in the back of my mind. How can I trick my mind into fogetting or not caring? A visable reminder is always present. It has become an unhealthy obession and I really need to move on. Facing this person is not an option as they have made it obvious they don;t care and facing them would just make me look stupid. I have a happy life, and I really don't want obsessing my mind all the time, but an unanswered question of what I did wrong, when I know I did nothing, remains. Are there any techniques of how to stop your mind thinking of things which no longer have anything positive to produce?

I am so frusterated! Thinking about just giving up...!? I am so annoyed with hearing and seeing all of these young (as in 14-17 yr olds) girls getting pregnant. They've even gone so far as glorifying it a little bit by making a TV show on MTV called "16 and Pregnant"...it's just not fair to those stable couples who really ARE TTC! Phew, glad I got that off my chest... I have been TTC for months now...just when I think it's happened AF shows up. Just out of curiousity, how commin is having AF common in pregnancy? I've heard stories where it has actually happened, but I was just interested to see how common it actually was...and if you DO have AF during pregnancy will a HPT still come up positive?? Also, are there any techniques or vitamins that maybe helped someone conceive when they couldn't before?? Thanks! & baby dust to those TTC!

I need your honest, opinions of positive parenting? 1.Do you think positive parenting techniques work? Why or why not? 2. Describe how you would handle the situation. •You are shopping with your toddler. Your toddler sees a toy that he wants and when you explain to him that he cannot have the toy, he begins to scream and throw a tantrum. Shoppers and store employees stare at you while you try to decide the best course of action.

What gives you the motivation to talk to the guy you like? I've tried breathing techniques, thinking positive...all that bullcrap and I haven't been able to initiate the conversation. I'm 28, I should be good at this.